In most cases, angry people are screaming to be heard. They want to be valued, loved, and listened to. They want to feel important but aren’t able to express themselves constructively. With the right attitude, it’s possible to get past these insecurities and reach an understanding.
"I want story about my experience when there is a conflict between me and my roommate since diploma at week of final. This is due to the problems of asignment in a teamwork. There is a began when we each other did not cooperate very well. Almost 1 week our relationship was cold and did not speak to each other. After about a week I started to take action for rectify the problems of our relationship by sending her a message to settle the conflict between us. Then my roommate said that she did not intend for not cooperate with me in the teamwork. She just follow our others friend. Then she apologized for her mistake. I also apologized for my mistake too which is emotional with her. Then we finished the problem between us only by using text messaging".
#That is my style to solve my problems with my roommates by asking a problem between us..........
*NOTE : When we are in a situation of conflict with roommates, we must solve the problem quickly because we may feel like something is missing like uncomfortable and the true meaning of friendships.
These 5 strategies will help you setting disputes quickly and peacefully for the benefit of everyone involved:
1. Remain calm. Be still and say nothing. Let the storm run its course. Often times the angry person wants to provoke you. Arguing is ineffective because it raises barriers. Consider how I handled the barber situation.
2. Let the other person do the talking. He or she will soon grow tired of it. Sometimes that’s all they want. To be heard. To feel important. Everyone wants to feel important. Some people just express it in ways that are counterproductive.
3. Genuinely consider the other person’s point of view. Imagine yourself in his shoes. Never say “you’re wrong.” In fact, try hard to look for areas of agreement and build on them.
4. There’s power in the words “Yes, yes, I see exactly what you’re saying. You mean…….” This shows the other person you hear him/her. That’s all they usually want — to be validated. By agreeing with them, you gradually break down the other person’s anger.
5. If the situation turns verbally abusive, put a stop to it. Firmly but calmly state: “You’re very angry right now and you’re saying things you don’t mean (give them the benefit of the doubt). I’m going to excuse myself. We can talk again after you calm down.” Then leave the room or ask them to leave.
....thats all from me that i can shared about my conflicts case...
-asya-
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